6. You can’t love others until you love yourself
Start training yourself in the ways of self-love, and I don’t mean the kind you spent most of high school engaging in. Appreciate yourself, almost to the level of narcissism. Nothing is more attractive than a man who is confident as hell.
7. Get comfortable
You know all those scenes in chick flicks where the guy is feeding her pizza and what not? That’s comfort. One way that you get a new dog to build trust with you is to hand feed it. Women aren’t dogs and there are other ways to establish this kind of comfort (like, you know, listening), but the basic principle remains. You want women to feel comfortable around you. That’s a lady killer that no amount of money can buy. You can learn a lot more about creating comfort here.
8. Play kino
At the Art of Charm, we talk a lot about “kinesthetic touch.” You know what that means? Body contact. You want to start getting it in as early as you can. A simple hand on the shoulder can break down barriers. You’ve shown her that physical touch between the two of you is OK. Trust me, you’ll be amazed at how quickly something like an arm around a woman’s waist can have her all over you.
9. Adventure is hot
You know what women love? A guy who wants to come by in the middle of the night and take them to the beach on a day that didn’t go so great. Women like adventure and excitement. You don’t have to be Indiana Jones to bring excitement into her life. You just have to be thoughtful and spontaneous.
10. Push the envelope
Whether it’s sexually or otherwise, don’t be afraid to cross a few lines. You’re the man. You’re supposed to be the aggressor, the initiator, the one pushing things forward. Don’t worry, tiger. She’ll let you know when your stock car is running in the red. Until then, don’t sweat it and as we’ve said before, ask for forgiveness, not permission.
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, visit theartofcharm.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.