posted
03/2/12
After reading my last article, you’re probably thinking: Alright, I don’t want to be the Friday night bar crawler. So what do I do? How do I stop this activity that has never yielded results and start becoming that man a woman wants?
(Editor’s note: Our friends at The Frisky tackled a similar topic from the female side in a recent post called 5 Tips For Meeting Guys Offline. It’s worth checking out, as some of the tips, including making eye contact, smiling and finding a situational excuse to start a conversation—If you’re at the grocery store, it’s “Have you ever tried this kind of hummus? I need to know because I take my snacks very seriously.”—can work just as well for dudes as they do for chicks. OK, back to the story.)
Ah, now that’s the key. Thank you for listening. It’s all about creating attraction. When you don’t create attraction, you become “that guy.” The guy who’s indecisive, who’s pushing alcohol, who’s got the wolf pack mentality. You look like you haven’t eaten in weeks and no woman is attracted to that.
How do you create attraction? It’s all about getting her interested before you approach. That’s why I prefer the non-bar scene for meeting women. You have better opportunities to set that up.
So how do you create attraction? It’s all about getting her interested before you approach, so that when you do approach, it doesn’t really matter what you say. She’s already intrigued by how you moved, walked and talked before you came over. And that’s why I prefer the non-bar scene for meeting women. You have better opportunities to set that up.
Here are the three great places to create attraction and meet women on a Friday night—or any other night—and how to do so.
1. Cozy Restaurant
Now, we’re talking about a little restaurant, one that has a small bar but not much of a bar scene. The kind of bar that’s just big enough for people to stand there for a few moments while they’re waiting for their table.
This type of place attracts more women because it’s what I call their “safe haven.” They’re protected. It’s almost like a sanctuary. Because men go where the masses go, women go where they can feel protected from the guys that are going to harass them on a Friday night.
So I like to show up to one of these places alone. I’ll get a bar stool and order dinner at the bar. That way, all the packs of women coming in will have to stand near me as they’re waiting for their table. Now keep in mind, it’s only a short window of opportunity here, but it’s a great window.
You sit down at the far end of the bar, toward the door, so you can see everybody coming in and talk to people. As they walk close to you, just look at them and say, “Wow, I have never eaten here, but this food is amazing. I’m so glad I stumbled upon this place on the way home from work…”
Then just allow the conversation to start. No pickup lines, no pre-planned anything—just an observation with a smile and confidence. She’s going to be intrigued and wonder who you are.
Chilling at the restaurant bar = good. Wearing Mitt Romney mom jeans = bad.
