There’s a common misconception about millennials and dating: They don’t. Technology has certainly made way for a new wave of “dating,” but just because people are swiping all day doesn’t mean they’re all hook-up crazed and don’t have any interest in connecting more intimately with one another. Millennials get a bad rap. Here we explore three myths, and debunk them once and for all.
1. Dating is dead.
The dating site Match surveys single Americans ages 18 and up annually, looking at their beliefs on dating, sex, and love. This year’s Singles in America survey discovered that the majority of singles are actively seeking out relationships, nearly half of them dated last year and those in their 20s are actually the most likely to have done so. Oh, and millennials are 30 percent more likely than other generations to want a relationship this year. So just because they’re often found texting, tweeting and Tindering, that doesn’t mean they aren’t meeting in real life, too. The digital space can even be beneficial for helping one to refine their dating opportunities like pre-screening dates, which would be totally impossible in real life.
2. Twenty-somethings only want casual sex.
Contrary to popular belief, Slate found that, to a lot millennials, sex isn’t everything: “Four out of 10 college students in America enter their senior year with zero to one sexual partners. Three out of 10 students said that they do not hook up.” And once they’re out of college, surveys reveal twentysomethings found it in their best interest to wait until at least a second date to do the deed.
3. Millennials don’t understand intimacy.
The idea that they simply don’t have enough emotional maturity to understand and partake in true intimacy is chalked up to them boasting a hookup culture in which it is easier to ignore emotions than feel the highs and lows of love. But, even if people are having casual sex, why does that automatically mean they don’t explore deeper levels of intimacy? “Alarmists fret that casual sex discourages intimacy,” notes New York magazine writer Maureen O’Connor. “But in my experience, the opposite is true. When you share your bed, your toothbrush, your sexual hang-ups and the topography of the cellulite on your butt with a stranger, the intimacy is real.”