Spontaneity in a relationship can be that spark that keeps the fire roaring. People go through stages as their relationships progress. In the beginning, everything is exciting because everything is new. As the relationship moves along, the two involved naturally become more comfortable with each other. Being around each other becomes more and more routine. Now, comfort doesn’t always equal a weakening of a relationship, but this can happen if the two people involved aren’t proactive in keeping the union fresh. A little bit of work and your union can keep that new relationship smell. There’s no room for emotional lethargy here. Either get proactive and keep it fresh or find yourself in a stale relationship. Here are four easy ways to be spontaneous in your relationships.
Just because. Many times couples only go out and have a good time on routine occasions. You know, birthdays, holidays and weekends. Try surprising your lady by taking her out on Tuesday, just because it’s Tuesday. Send her flowers that match the color of her eyes because you feel like it. Write her a poem because you were inspired by the color a leaf falling from a tree. Get it? Do cool stuff for her just because, not for any reason in particular. And switch it up so this sort of thing doesn’t become so routine.
Unplanned trip. Sure, families save money and go on cruises and such, but how about shaking things up, grabbing two plane tickets and flying somewhere you’ve never been? Have a ball exploring a new place with your woman. Seriously, don’t think too much about it. Pick a place, get the tickets and leave tomorrow. If you have kids, send them to your brother’s house. What are you waiting for? You’ve wasted too much time already.