If you have a face like Brad Pitt or a body like All-Pro receiver Calvin Johnson of the Detroit Lions, you’re in. You don’t have anything to worry about when it comes to the opposite sex because women are going to flock to you. However, if you’re in the group that includes 99 percent of the rest of the male population, you have to work on your game if you’re going to be successful with women. One of the best ways is having a good sense of humor. If you can make women laugh it will make you fun to be around and seem more attractive.
If you are nervous and uptight, the tension will be obvious. If you are tense, that will overwhelm any attempt you make at humor. You need to realize that no matter what happens when you are talking to a woman, the sun will come up tomorrow. It’s not the end of the world if you happen to strike out. If you can use this perspective to calm you down, then you can be yourself and relax; and when you relax, you are much more likely to be funny.
Show Your Lighter Side.
There’s humor in nearly every situation you face. You may not see it right away, but funny things happen all the time. For example, you may have bought a new car recently and when you get home, you find the car alarm is going off 30 minutes after turning off the engine. There’s a computer malfunction in your car, and you have to take it back to the dealer to get it fixed. While that’s nothing but a hassle and a pain in the ass, you can turn it into a funny situation. “Wow, I wonder what the guy who installed the car alarm had for lunch? Probably about two six packs and three shots of Jack Daniels.” By putting a human face on it and laughing about it, you show you have a great sense of humor.
You need to understand what’s happening in the news and follow popular culture as well. If you can drop a line or two indicating your knowledge of the latest budget crisis or the state of Kim Kardashian’s love life, it will show you have outside interests and that you think about things besides your looks, your job or your next drink.
This can really help you win that next date with a woman. Go to a restaurant or any location where people congregate. Sit down with your date and as you are conversing, find another couple or an individual and make up a story about their life. For example, you could be at a museum, and you may see a guy admiring a painting whose hair is completely messed up. You can make up a story that he ran out of the house with a wet head, absent-mindedly put a hat on as he was driving, took his hat off and didn’t even realize his hair was going off in seventeen different directions.
Make Eye Contact. Look her in the eye when you are telling a joke, a story or even discussing the weather. If you are going to be funny, you have to connect with your audience. When you look into her eyes, you make a connection. If you close your eyes as you concentrate to remember the punch line, you will fall short.
Brevity. If you are telling a joke, keep it brief. You may think you are supposed to load up your anecdote with details, but unless they pertain to your story, you are just making it longer and not funnier. Use one or two powerful descriptive words rather that three or four extra sentences. This will make women want to hear what you are saying because they know it will be important…and funny.