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Sure, dating a hot mom is the latest male fantasy. There’s something about a woman who maintains her hotness after popping out a few rugrats that drives some men crazy. MILF infatuation is one of many male fantasies that isn’t as well thought out as it should be. In fact, dating a MILF is a veritable minefield of dangerous possibilities and problems. There are probably more than seven reasons why dating a MILF is harder than it seems, but these reasons are the ones that may make you think twice about becoming a MILF hunter.

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Restricted time. What are MILFs? First and foremost, they are moms. This means that they can’t always just get up and go when you want them to. Their kids will always come first. If you can’t accept this, or you aren’t the type of guy that can rearrange your schedule, you may want to rethink dating a MILF. Remember, you and her might be attracted to each other, but her bond with the children is for life. You’re always second banana. Or third, or fourth, depending on how many kids she has.

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Kids. If you’re not serious about this woman, then steer clear of dating her. Being serious about her means being serious about her little ones. You have to develop a relationship with the babies or the relationship will not work. It’s a package deal. Loving her means loving those kids. Oh sure, it’s fine when you only see the kids now and again, and it’s all play time and building blocks. But when the not-so-fun kids stuff happens, that’s when your mettle will really be tested.

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She’s tough. And she has to be. Single moms have to play the role of mother and father for the kids. In order to date a woman like this, you can’t be weak. She’s going to be independent. She’s going to have moments when she just doesn’t want to be bothered by you. If you’re one of those men who needs a woman to constantly stroke your ego, tell you she misses you, or devote all her time to you, dating a MILF will be quite the difficult ordeal.

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She’ll Be Tired. Raising kids is like a job from which there is no break. There’s almost no downtime, even at night. If the kids have a nightmare, or are sick, then that means she’s going to be up at all hours. What does that mean for you? Well, probably that when your romantic evening rolls around, she’s not going to have the energy for much more than a movie on the couch and sleeping on your shoulder. The nightlife will be a thing of the past for most MILFs.

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Possible baby daddy issue. If they didn’t break up on good terms, or the baby daddy wants to be a jerk, he can make dating her very difficult. You know just as well as any other guy that men can be jerks, and they can be very territorial. If you encounter a baby daddy, he’ll make it a point to make it difficult on you and her. Only a steadfast, tough-minded guy can handle or maybe even make peace with a baby daddy jerk.

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You will play the father role. The deeper you get in with her, the closer you’ll come to her kids. Once again, this is a question of exactly how selfless you can be. She’s not going to be with a man that doesn’t love her babies. Period. As the relationship grows, so will your responsibility for her kids. If you can’t handle being a parental figure over time, you’re dating the wrong girl.

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Your free time will have to revolve around the kids. You’re going to have to give time to doing family activity. If you want to see her, you’re going to have to see them as well… well at least some of the time. Babysitters aren’t cheap, and you’re going to have to develop a relationship with the children anyway. You’re not going to want to sit around the house all day. Because of this, you’ll have to, at least sometimes, find family friendly activities to get into. If you want an adults-only relationship, you’ll need to look elsewhere.