It’s no surprise that people are dating using social media. You’ve probably done a bit of it yourself. Most advice you’ll read about meeting women or moving a relationship forward deals with Facebook, but if that’s the only social network you’re using, you’re missing out. Lots of other sites can be part of your game plan, too. Here’s how to best tailor your online presence to each.
Is sense of humor your strongest point? You need Twitter, my friend. The 140-character microblogging service is perfect for the man who has a pithy quip for every possible subject. It’s not the easiest place to meet women, but you can impress ones you already know with your ability to give them bite-sized yuks. Plus, you can catch their eyes with relevant hashtags—the subject tags following the pound sign, #understand? The women you’ll encounter here will be high quality, as they’ll appreciate a well-crafted and highly distilled part of yourself.
Foursquare can be a dream or a nightmare. On one hand, you can ID women at a place you find yourself. On the other hand, spurned exes can see what you’re up to at all times.
While Twitter serves the funny guy, Reddit is for the brainier man or the one concerned about certain subjects. Reddit is organized into things called “sub-Reddits” or Reddit feeds dedicated to a particular topic. There’s a great deal of interaction on Reddit between Redditors who frequent the same sub-Reddit. And not only are tons of them women, you’ll get to do a lot of interacting with them on specific topics of your own choosing. Be yourself, but be your smartest self and you’ll win them over.
You know the advice about not dating women you work with? The same applies to picking up women on social networking sites designed for working professionals. If you’re on LinkedIn and encounter someone sexy, try to find her on another social network and introduce yourself that way. LinkedIn is for professional networking, so it probably won’t behoove you to hit on women there. But if you’re able to relocate them on Facebook or Twitter, they’re fair game.
FourSquare can either be a dream come true or a total nightmare. On one hand, you can ID women at a place you happen to find yourself. On the other hand, spurned exes can see what you’re up to at all times. Use FourSquare to see which women are in a given place, but don’t mention that you found them on FourSquare. Trust me, they’ll be creeped out. That said, if a lady ousts you as mayor of your favorite coffee shop, don’t be afraid to send her a playful message telling her your plan to reclaim your throne in short order.
Little-known fact: every woman on social media looks exactly like this.
Yeah, I said it. Believe it or not, people—young, attractive people—are still using good ol’ MySpace. It’s the fourth most popular social networking site, bigger than Google+. The good thing about MySpace is that it’s totally acceptable to add tons of people you’ve never met and don’t know. Feel free to trawl the locals, then introduce yourself and use a little light banter to break the ice.
It doesn’t have a lot of members, but this place is active and growing. The bad news? A lot of users are dudes. You’re going to have to really stand out from the pack to get female attention at this virtual sausage fest. Post only the best of the best and engage with women’s feeds as much as you can. The good news? The built-in chat function beats the crap out of the one on Facebook. Best of luck.
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, visit theartofcharm.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.