Cindy Crawford was always there for us. In our pre-adolescence, she graced magazine covers everywhere—from Playboy to every magazine in print to Mom’s Cosmo, with titles like, “Taking Charge of Your Life Without Waiting for a Man.” I remember thinking, “You do you, Cindy. One day I will be the man for you.”

She raised us sartorially from 1989 to 1995 on MTV’s House of Style. She also taught us that there was nothing dirty about the human body. That pregnancy could be beautiful. She’s been there for us in puberty, and it’s time for us to be there for her now.

Recently she took fire from a former editor at Cosmo for some unretouched photos that leaked from Marie Claire. “Egads,” 68-year-old Linda Kelsey says of the 48-year-old’s just slightly imperfect skin. Kelsey says it doesn’t fit the “fantasy” that women’s magazines are selling.

Bad pictures happen. Just count how long it takes most women to finish principle photography for a single selfie. But there is a whole industry built on telling women they are too fat or saggy or their skin has too many pores. Do we have to gang up on them?

Part of growing up is giving up on “let’s pretend.” Photoshop has allowed us to suspend this much-needed change. And why? Who among us would ask for a single bit of Cindy Crawford to get retouched if she were wearing an open robe in front of us? Cindy Crawford is a beautiful, successful person who has also had children. Don’t we all want similar qualities from a potential partner?

Bad pictures happen. Just count how long it takes most women to finish principle photography for a single selfie. But there is a whole industry built on telling women they are too fat or saggy or their skin has too many pores. Do we have to gang up on them?

No. We won’t now. And we won’t on our wife’s 48th birthday, either.

P.s.—The crass version of this call to grow up comes from none other than Louis C.K.: “I like women. Girls, I’m done, long time ago… When you become a woman is when people come out of your vagina and step on your dreams… You’re not a woman ’til you’ve got long, chewed-up nipples. And you’re not a man ‘til you’ve sucked one of those fuckin’ things either, by the way.”