No one wants to talk about masturbation. No one wants to be replaced by masturbation, either. There’s a common misconception that couples who indulge in a lot of self-pleasure do so because their sex lives are lacking. But science says otherwise. Couples who masturbate, and talk about it, are actually happier and healthier. Here’s why.
It will make you want more sex. Sex begets sex. The more sex couples have, solo included, the more they want it. Moreover, the more they experiment alone, the less dependent they’ll be on any one position or activity and, thus, the more they’ll be willing to mix things up with a partner.
Practice makes perfect. Masturbating can dramatically increase the capacity for intimacy by helping people understand their own bodies so they can communicate their sexual desires with their partners. Likewise, solo sex helps men build stamina and last longer with a partner, and it also works out the pelvic floor muscles, which prevent erectile dysfunction in men and amplify the power of orgasms in women.
It’s a stress reliever. Orgasms release endorphins like dopamine and oxytocin that relieve pain and reduce stress and anxiety. And, of course, the more these feel-good neurochemicals are released, the less stressed and thus happier couples are.
It facilitates sleep. Climaxing lowers blood pressure, which help people relax and sleep better. And, according to a 2014 study, the more sleep women get, the higher their levels of sexual desire, the more likely they’ll have sex the next day and the wetter they’ll be for it. That’s a win-win-win.
It keeps you healthy. Frequent orgasms boost the immune system, according to Dr. William Kolbe in The Rejuvenating Power of Masturbation. Both solo and paired sexual intimacy, he says, stimulate the major endocrine axis including the thymus gland, which plays a major role in our immune systems. A 2009 study adds that having sex, solo or paired, at least once or twice a week lead to 30 percent more immunoglobulin A (IgA) in the saliva, which fights infections and the common cold. Which is good because sex when you can’t breathe isn’t so fun.