You’ve likely experienced the eye lock moment with a woman across the bar at least a time or two (or maybe more times than you can count, good lookin’). But you don’t want to be that creepy guy who approaches a female who isn’t feeling it. So if you’re wondering whether you should make a move, look for the following not-so-subtle hints that she’d welcome your company…
1. She locks eyes with you more than once: The first time your eyes meet, it can be human nature to quickly look away. But if she’s interested, you’ll catch her glancing back again. It’s not an accident.
2. She scopes out your left hand: This is one might be tricky to notice, but if she’s interested, she’s going to want to make sure you’re available. If her gaze moves toward your (presumably ring-less) left hand, she’s into you.
3. She smiles your way: A smile is always a good sign. It’s a bolder move than simply a glance. And girls, especially hot ones, don’t send out that vibe unless they mean it.
4. She has the girl gang checking you out: If her friends are looking in your direction with a friendly demeanor, there’s a good chance she voiced her interest to the ladies. Now she’s hoping for their approval. But she’s also letting you know she’s interested.
5. She’s flipping her hair: Once she knows you’re looking at her—and hopefully interested—she’s going to want to make sure you notice that she looks good. She might stand up a little taller, or even play with her hair a bit. These little moves are her ways of flirting from afar.
6. She won’t let up: Some ladies are at the bar to talk to multiple guys and get free drinks from anyone offering. If that’s the case, she won’t bother looking at you for too long if you won’t come over right away. But, if she keeps looking back, it’s time to drop the wallflower act and walk on over.
7. She dances her way over to your general area: If it's a bar where she can dance, she'll be dancing next to you if she's into you. She'll grab her friends and position them strategically in front of you, so she can dance with her back to you nonchalantly but have her friends check to make sure you're looking. Photo: Getty Images/Sergei Kozak
8. She sends you a drink: This is an obvious, bold move—and it probably doesn't need much explaining. But if she calls the bartender over to play the middle man, and sends a drink your way, it'd be rude not to come talk to her. Photo: Getty Images/martin-dm
9. Her friend strategically stands near you first: Her friend isn't standing next to you because it's the only opening at the bar. The friend is standing next to you so said friend can casually summon her over, too. They're pretending like she was just going to stand with her friend, but they'd planned it to appear that way. Photo: Getty Images/Patrik Giardino
10. She sends a spy to chat up your buddies: If she's with a friend and said friend approaches your buddies, but she keeps at a distance, it's probably because her friend is going to dig up the details on you. Either her friend will report back or you can make the move to go talk to her yourself. Photo: Getty Images/Mango Productions
11. She looks at you with a smile while totally walking away: If she's looking at you and making some sort of dramatic exit—either from the bar to the dance floor or vice versa, it could be because she wants you to follow her. Offer her a drink or ask for a dance. Photo: Getty Images/wundervisuals
12. She tells the DJ to play a suggestive song: If you see her approach the DJ, whisper something in his or her ear, and then the very next song is something totally obvious like Talk to Me, well, talk to her. Photo: Getty Images/FlairImages
13. She leaves her friends behind to go stand at the bar solo: If you catch her standing at the bar alone, she may be doing so to appear more approachable. Look for other signs to make sure she's not alone because she's agitated by something first though; if she's alone and looking around, welcoming conversation and perhaps even looking at you, it'd be a good time to step up. Photo: Getty Images/AlexVolot
14. She spots you, goes to the bathroom, and comes out with fresh lipstick: If you notice her noticing you, but then she disappears, it may be because she quickly ran into the bathroom to freshen up. If you see her noticing you again, this time with bolder lips or hair let down, she may have done it on purpose. Photo: Getty Images/yuriyzhuravov
15. She leaves her number and has someone pass it on to you: If she wrote her number on a napkin or left her business card with a server or bartender to send your way, she's obviously into you. Run out and catch her before she flees the scene to let her know you got it, and you'll call. Photo: Getty Images/Thomas_EyeDesign