No two relationships are the same, and sometimes couples need time apart to reconsider what it is that they each want. However, time apart doesn’t necessarily mean you’re broken up; sometimes it just means you’re “taking a break”—that clears it up, right?!
Although some people see a break as having your cake and eating it, too, others actually believe a relationship can come out stronger than before because of it. So here’s what the experts say you should do when she hits you with the, “I think I need space.”
1. Consider it a blessing in disguise.
In a study conducted by TeamSport, one in 10 people in a relationship said they felt frustrated when they didn’t get enough alone time. Plus, almost one-third of the 1,000 coupled up adults who took part in the research said taking time to bond with their friends made them happier in a relationship. So instead of moping around when she tells you she needs to see less of you and more of her girls, let her do her thing. When she feels like she has her life back, only then can she share it with you, too.
2. Do your own thing, too.
According to Psychology Today, relationships and marriages are benefitted when spouses have time for themselves to pursue their own interests or simply relax. Research has found that “personal time allows us to maintain our individual identities, provides opportunities to do things we like to do, and let’s us feel like we have some control over our lives.” So alone time can actually help to keep a relationship fresh and less stressful. Use the time off as a chance to explore the things that you like to do, too—bike, hike, hit the gym, whatever.
3. Think about your relationship’s future.
Once you respect her wish for some time apart, and you aren’t so clingy with each other, you may just start to miss each other. Who knows, maybe you didn’t know it at the time, but you needed a break, too. Think about how great the sex will be when you finally decide to get back together. That alone is worth the time apart.