It’s really interesting when I go out at night and I see guys in that group. I call it the power group. It’s usually a group of six or more guys. They’re hanging out together in a corner drinking, usually starting out with beers, then moving on to shots.
If you were a woman, would you find this behavior attractive? A bunch of guys who stared at you for 45 minutes, all drunk, suddenly pressuring you to drink. Would that really work?
As they drink, the guys start to behave like drivers across the freeway from a jackknifed tractor-trailer. Their necks are constantly whipping around, checking out women, yet nobody does anything. Eventually, when the alcohol settles in, there is always one of them who starts to make a move. He’s usually the alpha male of the pack. And he boldly steps out, wandering through the bar and actually talking to women.
The rest of the pack watches the alpha male go out, and then they start to think to themselves, “How can I do that?”
Now the pack starts getting drunker, and they start creeping. They act like a bunch of coyotes and descend upon one woman. They see her standing at the bar and they all start making their way over, inch by inch. It takes them about 45 minutes to get there, but eventually they do. And then they gang up on the poor girl. “Hey, what are you doing? What are you drinking? Come on, let’s drink! Hey, let’s take a shot.” And they become alcohol pushers together.
Does this sound like your Friday night?
I want you to picture the above scenario from a woman’s perspective. If you were her, would you find this behavior attractive? A bunch of guys who stared at you for 45 minutes, all drunk, suddenly pressuring you to drink. Would that really work?
You know what does work? The guy that breaks away from the group and starts talking to women naturally.
If bar game is not your thing, then I strongly suggest you find another activity, or you start figuring out how to break away from that pack. You will never get laid in a pack. It’s not attractive, and despite what certain websites might lead you to believe, most women are not actually looking for a gang bang.
Over the next few articles, I’m going to go deeper into other things you can be doing to meet women. First stop: 3 Cool Non-Bar Spots to Meet Women. Read and learn, friend.
David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. His most recent book is Naked!: How to Find the Perfect Partner by Revealing Your True Self from Hay House. To find out more about David and all of his dating and relationship-building products, visit him on his website at davidwygant.com.