The offensive plays. You have to attack to win. But again, a full out offensive is not the best way. If you want this chick too chase you, you have to give her something to chase. Don’t saturate her with kindness. But do show you can be that cool, sweet, romantic guy. Don’t blow a boat load of money on her, but show that you’re not cheap. Don’t party with her all the time, but show you can get down with the rest of them. Give her glimpses of the great person you are to get her interested.
The defense. Here’s where it gets complicated. Women compartmentalize guys in three boxes. Guys they won’t date. Guys that’ll just be friends, and guys that are dating material. The only difference between guy friends and guys they’ll date is the level of accessibility they have with the two. The guy that’s always around, always in her face, is going to end up as a friend. The man that limits his time with her, but always has her back, the guy that creates a certain level of mystery is the man that’ll be dating material. And not just dating material, he’ll be the dude she goes after. Sit back and let it marinate for a minute. If you want a girl to chase you, give her something to miss. If you’re always there, then there’s no reason to chase. If, however, she knows that you’re this awesome guy, but you’re just out of her reach, she’ll want you even more. Don’t believe it? People want what they think they can’t have. Remember that hot chick in high school that wouldn’t pay attention to you? You wanted her because she remained just out of your reach.