So at long last, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony have split. We should probably be saddened by this news, but let’s face it, J.Lo’s still hot, and it’s exciting to have her on the market. Or, should we say, on the rebound.
How can you be the guy to help J.Lo or some other newly single beauty out here? As usual, fellas, The Art of Charm is here to shepherd you safely along the path to her bedroom with four tried-and-true tips.
1. Determine Whether She’s Actually on the Rebound.
Is she still in a relationship and just being dramatic? Is this just a temporary tiff or are things really over? She’ll want to be 100 percent sure (as well as reinforce in her own mind) that leaving her guy was the right move (if indeed that was the case). If she’s the one kicked to the curb, she’ll want to prove to herself that he is the one with the issues and not her.
Here’s a quick test. Ask her about the last guy she dated.
One possible reply: “Bah, whatever, the guy wasn’t for me. Anyway, I heard In-N-Out has off-the-menu fries that are the bomb, you in?”
Another is some variation of the following: “I don’t know what his deal is. It’s like one minute I think maybe he’s into me and we’re together, and the next moment I don’t know. It’s so hard to read him and figure out what’s going on in that head of his. I really liked him and I thought he really liked me, but now I’m not so sure. Maybe I should text him and see what he’s up to. Anyway, you hungry?”
It may seem counterintuitive, but answer 2 is the one you want. That’s a girl on the rebound. The first one had a legit breakup and is “over it.”
Tip: Don’t discuss your ex, no matter how tempting it might be to ‘relate’ to her on that issue. She may mention her ex, as above, but don’t take the bait or you’ll just end up being her emotional tampon. Think of Mikey in the first half of Swingers and how that worked out for him.
Remember, you’re so money, and you don’t even know it. The rebound girl is yours to lose, and talking about your ex is the surest way to drop the ball on the 2-yard line.
2. Make Your Move
…And do so quickly! If she’s on the prowl, it’s officially a race to get her attention (and affection). Often, the first guy to make a move will get ‘lucky’ (funny how there’s almost no actual luck involved here). The point is, she’s not being choosy right now, and if you snooze, you lose.
What’s the move, you ask? Start by mirroring her behavior. Basically, if she’s in party-mode ready to do a cowgirl dance on the table, encourage her to let loose.
Then, make sure you press all the right buttons, both physically and psychologically. Give her compliments (this is one case where these won’t come across as needy, especially if they’re delivered correctly). Remember, she’s in need of validation—give it to her.