‘Sexting’ is one of those words you’re probably really tired of hearing. Not least of all because you’re wondering how you can get in on the action. Sexting by itself isn’t a bad way to spend your time—especially if it happens to be with Rihanna—but if you’re like every other red-blooded male, you’re eventually going to want to turn it into the real deal. Here’s your step-by-step guide.
1. Start Slow
Yes, there really are guys who are going to straight send a girl a crotch shot right off the bat. You don’t want to be that guy. It’s not that we don’t think your mighty meat saber isn’t impressive enough to warrant her attention; it’s just that she’s more into you than your package itself. So slow down there, Tiger. She’ll want to see it eventually. Instead, start with casual flirting and playful banter, just like if you were chatting in a bar.
Feel free to use jokes and innuendoes to wade into the good stuff, and remember: in this situation, it’s always better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
2. Push the Envelope
This might seem to contradict the last point, but it’s all about finding balance. It’s up to you to gradually turn up the heat. You do that by pushing her boundaries a little, bit by bit. Don’t be afraid to be edgy. You aren’t chatting with your mother, you’re trying to get hot and heavy with the girl you’re into. Feel free to use jokes and innuendoes to wade into the good stuff, and remember: in this situation, it’s always better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
3. Calibrate to Her Reactions
Of course, pushing the envelope doesn’t mean being a total creepvert. You want to increase the level of eroticism and intimacy without making her feel uncomfortable. If she seems to be a little put off, back off a little. You don’t have to stop completely, just dial down the intensity a notch or two. Think two steps forward, one step back. If she continues to appear uncomfortable, then it’s time to take a break. Alternately, if you drop an innuendo that can be interpreted as innocent or dirty, and she takes it the dirty route, go with it, young man.