Knowing just how to please a woman is difficult—they’re all different and as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty reaching orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. So you’ll have to communicate and put in some work to get her to climax if that’s the end goal…
For those of you in casual sexual relationships, you’re faring better in the bedroom. DrEd recently conducted a survey of 500 Americans and 500 Europeans to determine the popularity of friends-with-benefits relationships and to see if they’re actually a good idea—as it turns out, 57 percent of respondents have been in one and they’re also more sexually satisfying than traditional relationships.
Specifically, 51 percent of Americans in a FWB relationship said they were sexually satisfied, 30 percent were somewhat satisfied and 19 percent were dissatisfied. Comparatively, just 43 percent of Americans in traditional relationships were satisfied, 26 were somewhat satisfied and 31 percent were dissatisfied.
But how do you please a woman if you’re not regularly sleeping with her, with no strings attached?
So long as you hit all the right places, you’ll be able to get her to ‘O’ in no time. While experts have said that it usually takes about 10 to 20 minutes of sex for women to achieve orgasm, it is certainly possible to get her off sooner—like, in under 60 seconds. No, we’re not suggesting you rush things, but getting her there quicker just means it’ll be easier to get her there multiple times thereafter.
Read on for tips on how to do the deed.
1. Understand her orgasm.
Dr. Carol Queen, Good Vibrations’ staff sexologist, says orgasming in under a minute is dependent upon three things: how easily orgasmic she is to begin with, how turned on she is when stimulation starts and whether the stimulation is optimized to provoke orgasm in the first place. So before you start messing around, make sure she’s down to mess around.
2. Kiss her—not just on the mouth.
William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing, surveyed 50,000 women and 96 percent claimed that a kiss on the neck was a perfect warm-up. In other words, your odds are pretty good that she digs this, so do more of it.
3. Remember that you’re allowed an additional helper.
No, I don’t mean a threesome. Although if you’re into that, by all means. However, I’m talking about sex toys. There are plenty of vibrators that can assist you in getting the job done, so don’t be intimidated. Try a product like the Womanizer—that’s a good place to start.
4. Compliment her.
Science shows that in order for a woman to climax, the part of her brain connected to stress, emotion and anxiety has to shut down. So take her mind off the day by reminding her of positive things—like how appreciative you are of something she’s done or how beautiful you think she is.
OK, maybe a one-minute orgasm isn’t the norm, but it certainly can happen. Don’t worry; we’ll let you take all the credit.
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