10 Dating Tips For Shy Guys

By: Emma Larkins

Break Studios Contributing Writer

If you consistently find yourself too introverted to even talk to women, you're probably looking for 10 dating tips for shy guys. First off, don't feel left out: as many as 40-50% of college students consider themselves to be shy. Here are some tips that should help you succeed at dating.

Practice being bold in non-danger zones. Before you jump in the pool's deep end for the first time, you might want to practice wading first. If you're a shy guy around everyone (not just women), you should practice not being shy when there are no potential dates involved. Tell a funny story to a family member or speak up when you're out with the guys.
Work on friendships. Speaking of going out with the guys, you do have guy friends, right? Dating is a lot like a friendship, especially in the beginning stages. Especially if you're a shy guy, friendships are key.
Talk to random women. Another dating tip for shy guys is to talk to women, regardless of whether or not you want to date them. If you're shy, it can take a lot of courage just to psych yourself up to ask a woman at the grocery store whether she thinks the cantaloupes are ripe. The more you talk to random women, the better off you'll be when you want to strike up a conversation with that (potentially) special someone.
Develop nonverbal skills. If you're a shy guy when it comes to approaching a woman for a date, try to get the women to come to you by attracting them with an interesting skill. Can you balance on the front tire of your bike, or perform a flawless moonwalk? Impressing a woman with a skill will likely improve your chances of dating her. If you're not that skilled, something as simple as holding open a door or smiling across a crowded bar can work wonders.
Don't worry about what other guys are doing. Sure, there will always be that fast-talking guy who can impress any girl he comes in contact with. However, you may be surprised that some girls aren't interested in that kind of behavior and would prefer dating a shy guy who isn't always flirting with random girls.
Watch out for the friend zone. A big problem with being the shy guy is that women tend to feel that you are trustworthy and might befriend you before giving you a chance as a date. If you do find yourself talking to an amazing girl, one thing you should always do from the beginning is make it clear that you're not looking for friendship.
Ask a friend for help. There is no better dating tool in the shy guy's arsenal than a sympathetic friend. Try to get someone who is outspoken but not remarkably more attractive than you. Have your friend strike up a conversation with a bunch of girls or simply introduce you to people he knows.
Break out the moves. A good dating tip for shy guys to remember is that it can be a lot easier to get a girl with a physical gesture than with words. Try brushing past her, touching her hand, or nudging her. Ensure that you don't give off a creepy vibe by looking her straight in the eyes and smiling.
Learn to love rejection. If you're trying to date someone, every rejection you receive brings you one step closer to The One. If you need practice dealing with rejection, try getting into writing or sales to toughen yourself up.
Feign confidence. The most important dating tip for shy guys is that nothing turns a girl off more quickly than lack of confidence. None of these tips will work for you unless you're confident in using them. If you don't have it, fake it 'til you make it.