10 Tips For Breaking Up Relationships

This article discusses 10 tips for breaking up relationships that are suffering from lack of love, honesty, trust or general incompatibility. If it is obvious to one partner that the relationship is not working, he/she will usually be the first to consider breaking up the relationship. While it may feel like a daunting experience to break up with someone, here are ten tips to breaking up a relationship.

1. Make sure that the partner is the first to know. It is impolite and disrespectful to tell family and friends of breakup plans before they occur. This conversation should occur in a private place without an audience or other distractions. Breaking up with someone should be a private act, not a show for everyone to watch.

2. Find a neutral place with no memories or special meaning. Breaking up with someone at the spot of your first date is not only rude, but will make the break up much harder. Choosing a neutral location, like a park or relatively quiet and empty coffee shop, is a great suggestion for breaking up a relationship.

3. Always end the relationship in person. Just because the relationship may have started online or by phone does not mean that it should end that way. Giving someone the respect of breaking up with them in person is not only the right thing to do, but will make it easier for those being broke up with.

4. Make it short and to the point. There is no reason to give a cinematic overview of the relationship. Both partners know what did and didn't happen in the relationship and there is no reason to give a synopsis. Keeping it simple will make it easier to for both parties to understand why the break up is occurring.

5. Be consistent and firm. Hemming and hawing will not make the breakup smooth for anyone. Breaking up a relationship requires stating brief reasons for the break up and consistent answers for questions asked about reasons why. Having a plan in place about what will be said will make the breakup much easier.

6. Be honest. Prepare to tell a partner why the break up is occurring. Whether it be meeting someone else, no attraction to them anymore or not wanting to be involved in a serious relationship, honesty is always the best policy in breakups. From being in a relationship, the partner can tell a lie from the truth and honesty will make it easier to accept the breakup.

7. Remember to listen to her feelings as well. The relationship may be completely over for one partner, but is important to give the other partner a chance to to say their peace. This may involve questions or denying the break up, but everyone deserves a chance to ask questions and receive answers.

8. Don't start an argument or fight. Picking a fight will not make breaking up the relationship any easier for either partner. Accusations, name calling and verbal digs will only make the break up that much harder for both partners. Be respectful and courteous of one another and keep the conversation as short as possible.

9. Write a letter about the breakup. Discussing the breakup is difficult and things may be forgotten to be said. It is important that all feelings are put on the table and writing a letter beforehand may make it easier to remember all the details. Give this letter after the conversation about the breakup has taken place and leave the door firmly closed for further discussion about the breakup.

10. Leave gracefully and with honor. There is no need to feel guilty about wanting to break up a relationship, but there should be no blame given to the other partner either. Being dumped is quite a horrible experience for anyone and doing it in graceful, polite manner will make it easier for both partners.