10 Tips For Breaking Up With Your Girlfriend
If you feel like your relationship is on the rocks, you need these ten tips for breaking up with your girlfriend. While these kind of situations are never pleasant, the following tips and guidelines for breaking up with your girlfriend might make the experience a little easier. Always remember that even though breaking up with your girlfriend is never a fun thing to do, it will get better with time.
- Pick the right place. You don't want to be breaking up with your girlfriend in the middle of a mall or restaurant—in fact, the less public the place, the better. There might be a lot of feelings being put out there, so you don't want to be airing out your dirty laundry for everyone to see. In the end, it's best to do it at either one of your homes.
- Give yourself enough time. In breaking up with your girlfriend, you need to have sufficient time to let everything get settled. Don't think that your 45-minute lunch break will give either of you enough time to say what needs to be said. Pick some time where you both know you'll have an entire day to talk things out.
- Don't be insensitive. It always sucks being on the business end of the break up, so don't rub it into her face that you're done with her. Carry yourself with tact, but also be sure that she understands everything you say.
- Don't keep her around for sex. If you're breaking up with your girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is give her any false hope. Put your desires aside and let her know that you're not going to try to initiate contact with her for the sake of physical desire.
- Don't drag things out. Yes, you do need to give yourself enough time to talk things through, but don't belabor the fact that the two of you are breaking up. This is going to be hard enough on her as it is, so there's no use in pulling the bandage off slowly, so to speak.
- Keep your emotions in check. You might see breaking up with your girlfriend as some newfound freedom, but there's no reason to illustrate that point to her. Don't seem overtly happy that the two of you are breaking up. Be sensitive to her feelings and you'll see the experience to be more manageable.
- Pick a good date. Don't try breaking up with your girlfriend around the holidays or any sort of significant date for her, such as a birthday. Furthermore, definitely don't try and break up around an anniversary for the two of you—this just screams insensitivity. Pick a normal day where two of you have enough time to talk things out.
- Don't attack her. It's one thing to tell someone that you need to go your separate ways, but it's another beast entirely to pick her apart as a human being. She's already being dumped, so there's no reason you need to make her feel any worse. Just stick to the topic at hand and be as tact as possible.
- Don't immediately ask for your stuff back. Give her enough time to get over you before you start asking for your things back, Doing so immediately is just rubbing salt in the wound.
- Do it in person. When you're breaking up with your girlfriend, you should do it like a man. Don't do it with a phone call, email, or text message. Simply nut up and talk to her in person, simple as that.