5 Ideas For Experimenting With Rough Sex

Coming up with 5 ideas for experimenting with rough sex takes some thoughtfulness, creativity, and a willing partner. Rough sex can spice up life in the bedroom when done properly and safely. Before trying any of the below, make sure you’ve got buy in from your better half and be ready to bring your “A” game.

1. Safe word. Having a safe word is an important aspect of experimenting with rough sex. A safe word allows any of the participants to call a halt to the action and it means he or she is breaking character for a second. A safe word is needed because part of the roughness may involve one partner requesting—or even demanding—the other stop, but without really meaning it. A safe word guards against these protestations from being misinterpreted. Hint: pick something completely unrelated to your activity. “Broccoli” will probably work, while “Stop” will not.
2. Let her be the aggressor. It’s pretty common for the man to be the “dom” in rough sex situations, but if a man is willing to put down his machismo for a minute, he can let her drive the car for a night. He might find out he likes to be tied up, handcuffed, whipped, beaten, and made to obey orders. This idea for experimenting with rough sex can open some new doors.
3. Add role playing. Rough sex can be fun, and it’s even better when there’s role playing involved. Perhaps you can be an angry school master and she can be a naughty, disobeying student, or you can be her boss and she can be a bumbling and incompetent employee. Let the scenario start and improvise the lines as you go along. This idea for experimenting with rough sex adds an extra layer of fantasy to the rough-and-tumble romping.
4. Adventurous locations. Surprise your partner by taking your activities outside the bedroom and to a place slightly dangerous, with a chance of getting caught. Perhaps it’s a public restroom, a trail in the woods, or a poorly-lit parking garage. The rush you both get from engaging in rigorous, biting, slapping sex will be heightened even more by the danger that at any second someone might find you. Careful with this idea for experimenting with rough sex…pick too risky of a spot and you could both end up in the slammer.
5. Use a variety of implements. Perhaps part of your rough sex involves you administering a harsh and stinging spanking to your partner’s round bottom. If this is the case, have a variety of implements on hand but out of sight. Whenever you’ve gained control of the situation, surprise by pulling a paddle, spatula, cutting board, whip, and/or belt out from underneath the covers. This idea for experimenting with rough sex will get her even more turned on, knowing that you’ve made special preparations ahead of time.