5 Questions To Ask On A First Date
Knowing the right 5 questions to ask on a first date can help you banish awkward silences by introducing rich topics of conversation and allowing you to get to know your date well enough to decide whether it's worth going on a second date. The trick to asking questions on a first date is to make them specific enough to elicit the information you want, but general enough to avoid looking like you're prying. Try asking these five questions on your next first date.
- What do you do? This harmless and obvious question generates a wealth of information. From your date's answer, you should be able to discern approximately how much money she makes, how many hours she works and exactly how important her career is to her. Follow up questions will also reveal whether she likes her job, if she gets along with her co-workers and how ambitious she is. This information may not be important if you're just looking for a fling, but you may reconsider whether she's girlfriend material or not if you discover she's a workaholic who travels nine months of the year and hates her co-workers.
- Where did you go to school? This first date question will immediately reveal what level of education your date has attained. That may or may not be important to you, but the school stories that follow will likely give you an idea of whether your date has a lot of friends, what she likes to do for fun and whether she's the kind of person who finishes what she starts.
- Where were you born? On first glance, this first date question seems like it's about geography, but it's really about history. Bringing up your date's childhood is likely to lead to a discussion of her family, which will allow you to suss out if her mom is an alcoholic, whether she has daddy issues, and if she's likely to act like a spoiled princess in a relationship.
- What do you want? This open-ended first date question is designed to be revealing. Whether your date responds by taking about education, career, family, marriage, travel or anything else, she's letting you know what's most important to her.
- How long has it been since your last relationship? Asking this question on a first date is all about self-protection. It's generally a good idea to avoid people who just got out of a relationship or haven't been in one in years. People who just finished a relationship are probably going to be needy, volatile and high maintenance and going years between relationships is usually a pretty good indicator that there's something fundamentally wrong with someone. This question may also lead to a discussion of your date's last relationship, which may clue you in to what's important to her in relationships and how she's likely to treat you.