5 Tips For Massaging Her Back
Although it may seem hard to know where to start, follow these 5 tips for massaging her back and you will become the master of massages. Massage is an excellent way to relieve stress, create good feelings and stir passion. Human touch is very powerful tool and can stimulate the immune system, lower depression and anxiety and increase feelings of wellbeing. Giving a back massage can send many messages to your partner. If you follow these steps and listen to her as you go, you can give a massage that is memorable and says everything you want to say.
To give her a massage you will need:
- Comfortable surroundings
- Lotion (optional)
- Music (optional)
- Create the mood. Ambiance is not just for restaurants. Give your massage in a place ready for relaxation. Have her lie on pillows, the bed or the couch. Make sure the area is free from distractions (e.g. television, phone interruptions or other annoying things). Soft, sensual music, candles and lotions are not necessary, but can definitely enhance the experience.
- Start with her neck. Using the pads of your fingers on either side of her spine, rotate your fingers up and outward in small circles as you work your way down her neck. Put your hand so your knuckles are facing each other, as if you were about to open a bag of chips. Use your middle knuckles to press gently down the sides of the spine on the back of the neck. Press your fingers down on either side of her spine one at a time--ring finger, middle finger and index finger as though you were typing rapidly. Ask where and if she wants harder or less pressure from you. Alternate these moves several times to massage her neck.
- Move to her shoulders. Try the "typing" massage technique here as well. Hold your hands as if you were actually typing on a keyboard. Start with hands on either side of the spine and work towards each arm. Then, using the upper palm or flats of the fingers, put pressure on the middle of the back. Make pulsing circles, pushing upward and outward all over the middle of her back. Work your way up to the shoulders and continue moving, pushing tension out of the shoulders and back.
- Rub the lower back. The lower back can be a little tricky. You don’t want to press down into pelvic bones, creating discomfort. Curl your hands into fists and use the flat part of your fist between your knuckles to create circular pressure on the lower back. Again, make circles of pressure, starting near the spine and working out. Switch to your palms, putting pressure in rotating circles. The typing fingers trick works very well here. Type all the way down the back and onto the top of the buttocks. There are many nerves that run down the back, across the buttocks and down the legs. Relaxing the muscles here will release tension all the way down the legs. Again ask and adjust to the amount of pressure she wants and where.
- Cool down and repeat. Once you have finished a full round of these steps, have a cool down for your partner’s back. After a workout, muscles need time to cool down and go into their new positions. During the massage you have moved tension out of her muscles as well. To create a “cool down” effect for her back, run your fingers lightly up and down her back and sides. Travel up her neck and slowly, lightly and across her shoulders. ou can also run your fingers up into her hair.
Repeat the previous steps as many times as you like. Giving a massage can be an enjoyable experience for you both. Being willing to give a massage wins you half the battle and following these tips will take you the rest of the way.