The Art Of French Kissing
To be a successful lover, a man should master the art of french kissing. It's the most erotic experience you can give a woman and is often the determinant that makes or breaks the route to sex. Therefore, the logic is simple—if you want to get to third base or enhance a lip-locking encounter for the both of you, implement these smooching techniques and seduce victoriously.
- Take care of the basics. This means making sure you are clean and well groomed. Pay special attention to the texture of your lips and your breath—no one wants to mack with a barnacle-encrusted mouth that exhales clouds of onion dip and cheeseburgers. If you are plagued with bad breath, make sure you brush and floss at least twice a day and keep gum, mints or breath spray handy. For chapped lips, exfoliate them gently with and apply lip balm. It will be worthwhile when your partner's into you all that much more because of it.
- Prepare for the kiss. A woman usually needs to feel an emotional connection before the flood gates open. You can do this by looking deeply into her eyes and whispering a genuine compliment that will put her at ease and make her feel self-assured. At this point you should be holding her or standing very close within touching range. Gently place your hand on her neck, under her chin or the back of her head to coax her head towards yours, simultaneously leaning in yourself. Tilt your head slightly to avoid a face-to-face collision.
- Don’t assault her mouth—at first. In a kissing poll for his book “Rock Her World: The Sex Guide for the Modern Man,” author and adult film entrepreneur Adam Glasser found out that almost every woman preferred “starting slow and building up the pace and action.” As your lips press against hers, start with a softer, more nuanced and closed mouth kiss to spark her arousal. Nerve-endings in erogenous zones, such as those on the lips, respond best to gentle caresses rather than a firm touch.
- Transition to an open mouth. Very slightly open your mouth and brush your tongue against her lips. Retract your tongue and repeat after a few seconds. If she responds positively, slowly work your tongue into her mouth. Similar to dancing, there should be a natural “rhythm” in kiss you’re sharing. Lead, retreat, let her do the same and go with the flow. If tonsil hockey is meant to be, it will unfold on its own.
- Use your hands. While exploring each other’s mouths, excite her further by slipping your hand around the back of her neck and tracing your fingers down her spine. Brush your hands over her waist and the sides of her hips. Graze over her shoulders and arms. Don’t delve right into her hotspots just yet, not only as an act of respect, but to tease her and leave her wanting more.
- Experiment with tongue tricks. Depending on skill and comfort level, use a variety of techniques to maximize kissing pleasure. Use your tongue to tickle hers or windmill with it in the other direction. Explore the roof of her mouth and suck on her tongue. Whatever you do, try and keep the tongue flexible and not too rigid, which is prone to happening in the throes of heightened fervor. Regardless of the tongue-twirling intensity, always heed to the Goldilocks principle—not too hard, not too soft, but just right.
- Use interval stops and vary kissing length. You're not trying to enter the "Guinness Book of World Records" for longest continual kiss. It's okay to pull away for a second (to breathe or swallow some saliva!) before diving back in. And again, variety is encouraged—mix long, steamy kisses with short, intense ones. More than likely you'll get handsomely rewarded in the end.