Best friend of girlfriend: how to tell? It's not always easy to know where you stand with a woman. Here are some things you can do to find out if she's a best friend or a girlfriend.
Look for signs. This is the least invasive method of finding out whether someone is a best friend or a girlfriend, but it is also the method most prone to error. Our minds can play tricks on us, and in general we see what we want to see. When you're looking for signs, ignore little things like "she smiled at me today when she was talking." Look for something bigger like "she snuggled next to me while we were watching a movie."
Ask other people. If you know people who know your best friend/potential girlfriend well, perhaps they've been privy to some conversations regarding you. Try and ask about the situation in a subtle way. "Hey, I think it's interesting that [insert woman's name here] and I have been hanging out a lot lately. What do you think?"
Kiss her. Many people associate physical intimacy between friends as "moving to the next level." If you're not friends with a woman and you kiss, it definitely doesn't mean that you're starting a relationship. However, it's not good to kiss a friend unless you're ready to change the status of your friendship (for better or worse). The best part is, if you find out your friend doesn't return your feelings, chances are you can brush it off by saying that you just got "caught up in the moment." If kissing is out of the question, try to initiate physical contact in another way, such as holding her hand, to determine if she is a best friend or a girlfriend.
- Have a talk about the relationship. This is the last resort for determining if a woman is a best friend or a girlfriend, because it is the most fraught with danger. You could easily ruin your friendship if the woman doesn't feel the same way, and there's no way to take it back once you say you want to be more than friends. Then again, it's the only way you can know where you stand for sure.