Dating Help For Men: 10 Tips

By: Stephen Pomposello

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Looking for dating help for men and 10 tips to aid you in your journey? Dating is a game that is very much real and, like with any game, there are guidelines and rules to follow. Dating may require you to change some things about yourself, not in a bad way, but to help shape you into the person you want to become. We learn from other people as our personalities and habits bounce off of each other. Dating is no different.

  1. Maintain good hygiene. Hygiene is one of the most important things to consider when it comes to dating. Use a fine smelling deodorant, brush and floss your teeth twice a day, take a shower once a day, take care of your hair and select a good cologne for men.
  2. Maintain an appropriate appearance. Personal appearance and good hygiene go hand in hand. To put it into simpler terms, you basically want to aim to look as good as you smell. Look at your wardrobe and examine today's trends; this is not to suggest that you should copy other people, but you should use this research to help shape the way you want to look. Joining a gym and starting a diet would be a good idea as well.
  3. Avoid pick-up lines. Don't get me wrong, there are a few pick-up lines that actually sound natural and work effectively, but most of them are too obvious. It would be best to avoid them at all costs. What you want instead is called an icebreaker.
  4. Decide what type of person you're looking for. What type of woman do you see yourself in a relationship with? Of course, the physical aspects are one thing, and they may be important to a certain extent, but what's significantly more important are the personality aspects. Your date doesn't have to be exactly like you, but you should share a fair amount of common ground, so what are you willing to meet your date halfway on?
  5. Set realistic dating goals. What do you want to gain from this whole dating game? Do you want to be married a few years from now? It's questions like these you need to ask in order to set your goals for dating. If you're not looking for something that serious, it would still be appropriate to ask yourself why you're dating and what you're looking to get out of it all. If the answer is sex, are you able to be open about this with those whom you date?
  6. Surround yourself with friends who share your dating interest. Friends, or a wing-man rather, who share your dating interests and goals are great encouragement tools that help keep you focused and in the zone, especially when it comes to rejections.
  7. Join events that interest you. Staying in your house and watching television or playing video games isn't going to increase your chances of meeting someone. Look for local events in your area and groups that you could join. These must be something that interests you, even if it's only to a certain extent.
  8. Put up a front. Everyone gets a kick out of a little mystery here and there, so display some difficulty when it comes to availability. Don't make yourself too available, make the woman chase you a little bit. Just be sure not to make yourself seem so busy that you come off as disinterested.
  9. Don't take rejection to heart. Everyone gets rejected, even men who consider themselves to be the pros of dating. Examine the rejection. Why did it happen? Maybe it wasn't your fault, perhaps it has to do with her. Either way, know that she's missing out.
  10. Don't give up on dating. Dating is a numbers game, just like finding an apartment or finding a job. That's all it is. For example, if you approached twenty women, ten would probably say no, five will give you their number, and somewhere in that five may be one lucky winner.
Posted on: Jul. 24, 2010