First Time Sex Advice
Having sex for the first time can be intimidating, but knowledge is power so equip yourself with first time sex advice to diminish those nerves and ease the pressure. Following these basic tips will guarantee a more relaxed and pleasurable first sexual experience. It will be a memorable and life-changing moment for the both of you.
- Take a bathroom break before beginning. Avoid feeling self-conscious about your breath or how you smell by taking a moment to pay attention to your personal hygiene. Brush your teeth, rinse your face, clean your genitals, and you can even spray some perfume or cologne if that’s to your liking. Also, don’t forget to empty your bladder--first timers can sometimes confuse the feeling of an orgasm with the sensation of needing to urinate.
- Put on romantic music. The purpose of romantic music is to set the mood and facilitate intimacy. Appropriate music can influence our body’s electrical conductivity, pulse rate, blood pressure and circulation, which are all components of sexual excitement and pleasure. The flow of the music, and even its lyrics, can help you feel more connected to your partner during your first experience.
- Take it slow. You’ll be reminiscing about your first time for years to come so don’t rush through the event. Be acutely aware of every sensation that you feel in your core and in different parts of your body. At the same time, appreciate what it feels like to be naked with a partner and to stimulate his body. All of this foreplay not only allows you and your partner to develop a more intimate and trusting relationship, but also prepares the female’s body for intercourse so that she feels less pain during penetration.
- Speak to each other. Humans do not and cannot intuitively know what makes another feel pleasure because we are such individual beings, so we need to rely on good communication to make our desires known. Although it may feel awkward to talk about sexual topics at first, developing the trust and comfort with one another is worth the embarrassment. Express what kinds of touch and movement feel painful or pleasant, and don’t forget to compliment one another.
- It’s okay to say “No.” Know your limits both physically and psychologically. In a trusting relationship, it should be okay to say “No” if either of you feels uncomfortable with a certain sensation or with the general experience. You may want to discuss this and come to this agreement with your partner before having sex for the first time. There will always be another opportunity.
- Don’t forget the afterplay. An important part of your first sexual experience is the afterplay--the affectionate contact after sex in which both partners relax with each other. It’s natural to feel sleepy afterwards especially after all the buildup and sexual tension, but it’s worth trying to stay up for a little while to conclude the moment by cuddling, hugging and chatting to show appreciation and express satisfaction. In many cases, the female isn’t able to achieve orgasm during her first time so the afterplay becomes particularly important part for her.