Great Sex Advice
Whether you’re just getting to know each other or you’re already veterans between the sheets, we could all use great sex advice from the experts. Need more excitement? Want to maximize pleasure? Read on for some sensual must-knows to add to your sexual repertoire.
- Focus on your partner. It’s easy to slip into self-mode, worrying about the invisible glitches on your body or feeling frustrated that your partner can’t find your hot spots, but it takes concentration to focus on her instead of yourself and it’s exactly this intense attention that can generate deeper intimacy. Morning sex can be optimal, because you’ll be at your peak of alertness instead of exhausted and preoccupied by your workday. Remove any distractions, turn off extraneous noise, and make eye contact so that she knows she has your complete attention.
- Explore his whole body. When it’s your turn to focus wholly and completely on your partner, explore her entire body-discover the sensitive spots that make her tingle, note her fetishes, and feel the cues of the build-up. Narrating every part of her body that you touch is doubly stimulating as she feels and hears your path of exploration and appreciation. This can be done as a massage, which can also function to relax your partner and build a trusting relationship as you learn how to pleasure her best.
- Put foreplay at the forefront. Sex is no longer just intercourse; our new sexual generation makes foreplay a priority. Foreplay is anything that leads up to sex including cuddling, kissing, intimate conversation, sharing sexual fantasies, a striptease and whatever else you can think of that puts you in the mood. This anticipation of sex produces a buildup of sexual tension, which only naturally leads to maximum pleasure during orgasm. Be innovative-for example, some partners find it especially arousing to include food, props or sex toys during foreplay.
- Try new erotic positions. It’s no wonder that the ancient Hindu text on the art of making love and the mother of great sex advice, the Kama Sutra, dedicates a large section of its writings to describing 64 different sexual positions. Excitement comes from novelty and variety, but once you’ve been with the same person for so many years, you’ll need to be creative in how you create fresh experiences. New sexual positions beget different levels of penetration and stimulation, and allow access to different parts of her body both physically and visually. You’ll discover that there will be a position most pleasurable for your partner, but keep experimenting with new arrangements because her preferences can change.