Help Friends Coming Out Of Closet
Do you want to learn about helping friends coming out of the closet? If you have a dear friend who wants to come out of the close, here are the steps to helping them embrace their true identity.
- Being a listener. When your friend comes to you to come out of the closet, you either may have suspected all along, or you may be completely shocked. Either way, you need to listen with an open mind. Even if you don't agree with being gay, you need to let your friend know you care about them. Don't treat your friend any different. They are still the same friend.
- Accepting your friend. Coming out of the closet means your friend faces possible persecution from others. Try not to be one of them. It's amazing how mean and brutal people can be when they are mocking someone who comes out of the closet or has been openly gay. You don't have to accept that they are gay to accept them as a person. It's like you have friends or loved ones who sleep around and have a promiscuous life, and you may not agree with it. But as long as they aren't over the top flirting with multiple people right in front of you or otherwise indulging in overly sexual ways with multiple people in front of you, you are not apt to say anything.
- Just be a good friend. Assure your friend that those who truly care are going to love and care for him no matter what. And if someone tried to rough him up, you among others will stand in the way. Remind them that the definition of who they are is not just someone coming out of the closet, but a person with feelings, talents, ambition and people who still love and want to be loved by him.
Posted on: Jan. 11, 2011