How To Apologize To Someone
Are you wondering how to apologize to someone? We've all been there, and how you clean up the mess you've made can mean a world of difference. It's good to apologize and make amends. Eating a little crow never hurt, and it can taste pretty sweet when you make a wrong right..
- Acknowledge the mistake. The first step is to acknowledge the mistake. When you want to know how to apologize to someone, you have to admit that you were wrong in the first place. It's like working a twelve step program-start with yourself. What did you do wrong? How can you correct the problem? Once you've admitted your mistake, you can begin with making an apology.
- Be truly sorry. If you're not truly sorry, there is no reason to apologize. Being sorry means feeling that you have a reason to apologize. When you are sorry that you did something, it doesn't mean beating yourself up or ingratiating yourself to the person you are making amends to. It does mean knowing that you were wrong and the that you are willing to make the situation right.
- Make it right. Making amends is about a heckuva lot more than simply uttering "I'm sorry." In order to make the mistake right and apologize to someone, you promise not to repeat what got in you in trouble in the first place. Say that you are sorry with a pure heart. Know that you will never do the behavior again-to this person or anyone else.
- Prepare for the worst. It goes without saying that when we apologize to someone, often that person is not willing to hear what we say. Perhaps the apology strikes a nerve or triggers negative emotion. Maybe that person harbors unexpressed anger that now is directed at you. Whatever the case, prepare for a possible onslaught when you apologize. Remember that the other person's emotions and behavior have nothing to do with you. Your task is to make amends. If they choose not to accept your apology or behave poorly as you make amends, that is their choice.
- Remember what's important. Apologizing to someone means coming from a place of strength, not weakness. Many people feel that by admitting they are wrong means they are weak. The truth is that your admission of wrong doing means you have great character and integrity!