Learning how to arouse a girl using foreplay is an essential part of the sexual experience. When done right, participating in foreplay builds trust and arousal, both of which are necessary for moving on to sexual intercourse and ultimately orgasm. Before engaging in any foreplay, it is important to remember that good hygiene is one of the biggest turn-ons for any woman. Your hands and mouth will be touching her most intimate parts, so make sure they are clean and free of dirt, odd smells and sharp edges that may ruin your attempts of arousing her with foreplay.
- Kissing and petting. Remember the excitement of getting to third base in the back of your old beat up highschool clunker? The same principle applies here. A little necking can go a long way to arousing a woman. Be sure to take your time and hit all of the "hot spots": lips, earlobes and neck. Some women are also aroused when a man pays extra attention to their hands and fingers, back, elbows, knees and stomach.
- Manual stimulation. Also known as "fingering," manual stimulation is another way to arouse a woman with foreplay. Once you know your partner is receptive to the idea (usually a moan, groan or deep sigh as you brush the tops of her thighs or run your fingers through her pubic hair is sufficient permission), manual stimulation can make for intense arousal. Begin gently by tracing the labia, stopping to put light pressure on the clitoral hood. Work your way slowly inside of her lips, exposing her a little at a time, until you enter her with one finger. As she opens up, slowly add a second finger. Be sure to let her set the pace. Your woman will let you know when she is ready for more. Your patience may be rewarded with the "Big O." The most important rule of manual stimulation: never go straight for a woman's clitoris. It is jarringly painful for a woman to experience.
Breast and nipple play. The breasts are a major source of sexual pleasure for most women and are often overlooked by most men. It takes more than a nipple twist or a quick lick of the nipple to arouse a woman. Every woman is different, so the key is to experiment and find what your partner enjoys the most. Kissing, licking, sucking, pinching and even gentle biting may all be welcome activities.
Massage. A simple body massage can turn into something erotic when the right atmosphere is created. Dim the lights, light some scented candles, lay out a soft blanket, and use warming oil to help create an environment for arousal. Start softly and chastely and let the moment grow from there. Before long, your massage will have turned into the ultimate seduction.
- Showering together. Something as commonplace and mundane as the shower can lead to some good clean fun in the naughtiest of ways. There is something sexy about lathering up together and getting slippery together in a steam filled room. Take turns washing each other and shampooing each other's hair. If you're feeling particularly naughty, try a little landscaping in the nether regions.
- Oral sex. The Holy Grail of foreplay! Performing oral sex well almost guarantees you will be enjoying intercourse. The rules for engaging in oral sex are the same as for manual stimulation–start slowly and let her be your guide.
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