How To Be A Better Lover

By: Mishka Bulldozer

Break Studios Contributing Writer

If you want to make the most of your love life, you need to know how to be a better lover. Learning how to be a better lover is more than just knowing the kinkiest positions or how to get her to an orgasm in five minutes. It's about being the type of guy that she'll legitimately enjoy having sex with time and time again. A lot of learning how to be a better lover involves some work outside of the bedroom, so this is in fact a full-time commitment. If you want her to look forward every minute that you spend together, then take notes on how to be a better lover.

  1. Communicate. It cannot be stated enough, if you want to be a better lover, you're going to need to open up and start talking about things. Whether it's your expectations of the situation you're involved in, or even what gets you off versus what you don't like, you're going to need to learn how to speak your mind and do so respectfully. Yes, this step takes a lot of mental maturity on your part, but your partner will like you even more because of it.
  2. Take her out once in a while. It might sound corny and maybe even a little cliched, but women love being taken out. This statement is not meant to be misogynistic in any way, but it's true, if you want to be a better lover, you're going to have to treat your lady like, well, a lady. Take her to dinner and a movie, or even a picnic and a walk in the park. You don't have to take some grandiose ideas from this year's latest romantic comedies, but don't be treating her like a common streetwalker, either. If you legitimately like the girl, then this step should be easy. Show her that you enjoy her company outside of the bedroom as much as you do while between the sheets. 
  3. Cook for her. Before you start saying how cooking is unmanly, realize that nearly 80% of the professional kitchen work force is male. Despite this, a lot of women believe that a man who can cook is incredibly sexy, so use to this your advantage and make her a meal every so often. Show her that you happen to have some flair somewhere where a bed isn't involved and make something great for the both of you. Find a simple recipe, practice it a few times, and present it to her the next time she comes over. It's one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to become a better lover.

Even if the two of you are meeting for casual sex, your lady will definitely appreciate if you learn how to be a better lover. Finding out how to be a better lover means learning how to treat her right, communicate what's on your mind in a respectful way, and really just learn how to be a better man all-around. Don't think of this lesson as how to become whipped or how to be more romantic, instead, just think of it as a way to become more irresistible to her.

Posted on: Nov. 03, 2010