How To Be With A Mysterious Woman
How to be with a mysterious woman involves patience. Women may have valid reasons for keeping secrets or they may be working you to make sure the relationship is full of surprise and suspense to keep things fresh. If you aren't a game player and don't know how to play it cool, you probably should look for another woman to date. A mysterious woman requires a time to get to know and time to understand. How to be with a mysterious woman requires a few items, including;
- sense of humor
- cell phone
- Remember details. A mysterious woman keeps details and stories to herself. It's your job to find out small details and collect this information to fit together a story line for her life and times. If your memory is bad, take a few notes and add them to a computer file after you've been out with the mysterious woman. As you date and chat with her about her life and times, write some of the information you've learned so far into your "Mysterious Woman" notebook. Don't challenge her with the information; simply drop in a fact or two. If you are eating at a rib restaurant and you've found out she was born in Texas, note; "When you were in Texas, did you eat a lot of ribs?" By adding details, you're showing her you have part of her number and the mask is slowly coming down. If the details the mysterious woman is putting out there don't jibe, then you're not dating a mysterious woman, you're dating a fabricator. You'll need to then decide if this chick is worth the effort. Before you draw the line in the sand, check your fact book to make sure you have your facts in order.
- Tease her when she becomes overly serious or too mysterious. This is not a license to mock her behavior, but a little teasing is appropriate in dealing with mysterious women. Everyone likes to spin a little mystery. Nobody likes their life to be an open book, without any interest or intrigue, but too much spinning is hard for a guy to handle. If you haven't mastered the art of teasing, then simply smile as she spins and say, "Ah." This shows your interest and adds to your own mystique. Eventually, as you two know each other better, the mystery will disappear.
- Call her during the day. Nighttime dates are a natural time for mystery. Date dress is different than normal daytime attire and a mysterious woman is ready to spin the mystery. If you really want to get to know her faster, call and chat with her when she's off her game. During the day, when she's at work or at school, she's not likely putting up the facade. She's more herself. The phone also eliminates the mystery and the need for cloaking her true feelings. Simply call to say hello and ask her what she's up to. Make small talk that you can use as a bridge when you see her again on a date. This common ground will cut through the fake mystery and put the two of you on a firm footing in reality.
Warning: If you've gone out with a mysterious woman for a handful of dates and you're still not any closer to knowing her, you must question if you're ever going to get closer to knowing this woman. She might be a spy or she might have serious emotional issues. Evaluate your position carefully. The woman may not be worth all the mystery.