How To Break Up With A Girl
Finding out how to break up with a girl can be important in not creating any drama between you, her or anyone else. There are simple things you can do to ensure a clean and easy break-up for both parties. Breaking up with a girl does not always have to be time consuming and heart breaking. There are ways to handle the situation without having to deal with the common problems.
- Make sure you actually want to break up with this girl. You can do this by making a list of positives and negatives of the relationship. If you try and break it off with the girl and you end up wanting to get back together, you may have caused too much damage to continue a healthy relationship with her.
- Know what you want. If you want to remain friends with this girl, but do not want her as a girlfriend, make sure you know that going in. Communicating that effectively can help ease the girl's emotions. She may see the upside and not be as concerned about the break, because she's not losing you as a person all-together. If that is not something you want, make sure you make that clear as well.
- End it in person. Don't ever break up with a girl on the phone, through text or in a letter. Even though she might still be upset, it shows a sign of respect by telling her in person. You are indicating that the relationship was important to you, but you are serious about the breakup. After you tell her, make sure you leave right away and don't comfort her (as that shows a sign of attachment).
- Tell her first, before anyone else. If you go around and tell all of your friends, family or co-workers before the girl, you are also showing a sign of disrespect. The girl need to be the first to know. This will also ease the drama and gossip surrounding the break up. Let the girl have the choice to tell who she wants about the break up. It is not your place to do so.
- Listen to what she has to say. Do not ignore her or block her from saying how she feels. She may be very angry and have choice words for you, but let her speak her mind and tell you how she feels. That doesn't mean you have to give in, but listening is respectful to her and helps her get through the break-up.