How To Break Up With Girlfriend
Knowing how to break up with girlfriend can save you much pain and time. Dragging out a relationship that has passed it's prime is a waste of emotions and effort. Get with it and get it over with. There is a right and wrong way when it comes to breaking up with a girlfriend. The wrong way can lead to extensive heartache for the female and extensive grief and recompense for the male. Breaking up the proper way can, in some cases, actually lead to becoming friends with your ex. Always take the high road and give needed consideration for the girl in question.
- Tell her first. When breaking up with a girlfriend, do not tell others of your plans. This can lead to the lady finding out "through the grapevine" of your intentions. Her response will typically be hostility, anger, hurt and embarrassment. Often, this can cause repercussions from mutual friends as well. Keep tight lips of your plans until you have the proper opportunity to tell the girl.
- Make a plan. Set a time and place for breaking up with a girlfriend. Set the date in stone as to not let the long gone relationship linger in limbo. It is suggested that you choose a public place where you may talk privately. A small cafe or dimly lit restaurant may work. A park is also an option. The spot where you met may also work, depending on the situation.
- Plan what to say. Breaking up with a girlfriend should not be an off the cuff occasion. Plan what to say and carefully plan the words. Be cautious of using blame. Be honest. Tell her how you feel using gentle and non-judgmental words. Be very clear that the relationship is over. If you wish to remain friends, plan to tell her during the break-up speech.
- Meet up and tell her. Do not duck out of the planned meeting when breaking up with a girlfriend. Tell her face to face in a calm and quiet voice. Do not embarrass her by yelling or getting loud. Prepare for her to be emotional and cry. Take a cloth kerchief along to give her for the tears. Show compassion, but be firm in letting her know that this is the end.