How To Break Up With My First Girlfriend
Knowing how to break up with my first girlfriend can seem complicated because it’s something you have never done before. However, with the proper planning and strategy, you can break up with your first girlfriend in a way that works for you.
- Don’t jump the gun. When you are in your first relationship, there are a million emotions running through you. It is easy to feel completely in love one second, and not too sure the next. What many don’t know during their first relationship is that eventually the new wears off. It takes several failed relationships to realize that this doesn’t mean you aren’t in love anymore. It just means that the “new” feeling of the relationship has worn off. Hence, think before you act!
- Plan ahead. If you are sure that it is time to break up with your first girlfriend, then you will want to plan ahead so you know how you would like to do it, rather than just spring it on her at the wrong time and say the wrong thing, making you look like a jerk. You don’t want to embarrass her by breaking up with her in public, so plan for it to be somewhere private. You will also want to plan what you would like to say.
- Avoid clichés and make sure to add compliments! Clichés like “It’s me, not you” doesn’t do the job when breaking up with your first girlfriend. Say something directly from the heart and be honest. Even if you don’t feel anything for her anymore, you did at one point to want to date her and she deserves to be let down gently. Start with compliments and let her know all the good things about her. This will give her a sense of confidence and not as heartbroken. If you just want to be single, tell her that in a gentle way. You don’t want to lie to her, but you don’t want to tell her the truth in a hurtful way.
- Be gentle. You want to aim for still having this girl as a friend at the end of your talk. If you achieve this, then you know that you did a good job of comforting her hurt feelings and breaking it off in a classy way. You don’t want to be a jerk because girls talk and it could hurt your chances with other girls in the future if they think you are a jerk.
Breaking up with your first girlfriend can seem scary when you are unsure of where to even start. Just keep these few tips in mind when you are breaking up with your first girlfriend and you will handle the situation with flying colors.