How To Charm A Girl
Ah yes, the age old question ... how to charm a girl. Charming a girl isn't about you. If you want to charm the girl, it's all about her. Paying attention to the object of your desires is the only way to effectively figure out how to charm her. Yes, you have to pay attention. You can't charm every girl the same way. You have to travel a different path for each and every girl you want to charm. The successful charmer knows how to be the person that a particular girl wants at a particular time. Properly charming a girl is all about filling a void she needs to be filled, no matter how temporary. Here's how to go about charming a girl.
- Get to know her. No, this isn't one of those long drawn out plans that you spread out for months and months. It's all about learning how to read the young lady rather quickly so you can steal her attention away from other things. You have to learn how to pick up on someone's disposition. All people are a conglomeration of their experiences, desires, current worries, and a vast number of other things. When you find the girl you want to charm, you need to assess these things rather quickly so you can know how to proceed. It could be as simple as realizing that the hot hostess at your favorite diner is having a bad day. The most charming thing you could do is to ask her how her day is going. See, charm means different things to different people at different points in their lives. You fill that void, or give them a temporary escape from life's toils, and you could just about charm any girl. So pay attention.
- Subtlety goes a long way. A charmer is not the guy that approaches a woman with a full frontal assault of compliments. Instead, the charmer realizes the importance of creating a natural setting. Charming a girl should not seem scripted. It loses its appeal if she feels like you planned it. Your best approach is to be spontaneous. This is why its important to pay attention to the girl you want to charm, because you're going to have to act on the fly. Most importantly, keep that over the top stuff for the theatre. She doesn't need all of that. A simple smile at the right time can work wonders. A quick seductive glance. Anything to show her that you view her at a higher level than she may be viewing herself at the time. Remember, you're there to be a temporary solution to a personal void.
- Keeping it going. The problem with initial charming is that it can wear off rather quickly. It's like any high, eventually the charm will come down. You need to keep it going. if you've got the lady's attention, its up to you to draw her further in. Good conversation is always the best way to keep her on cloud nine. In this instance, good conversation means one thing and one thing only. Your conversation should feed off of her. It should continue to keep her sheltered from the issues she's facing. It should promote what she's interested in life. Once again, all of this is born out of paying attention to the girl.