It can be difficult sometimes to communicate your sexual fantasies and desires, especially if you are in a relationship. Changing your sexual dynamic can be embarrassing and intimidating, but if you want to learn how to communicate your sexual desires you need to be confident, open and honest.
- Be Honest. Tell your partner exactly what you want to try and why. If your fantasies are pretty out there, try suggesting a slightly “diet” version and then working your way up if your partner seems into it. If you want to try something really kinky and you are afraid of how your partner will react, be truthful and then suggest watching a video before trying it out yourselves. If you dance around the subject because of fear and don’t express yourself clearly, chances are you won’t get what you want.
- Be Open. If you are opening up and suggesting new things to your partner, don’t be surprised if they start expressing some fantasies of their own. You shouldn’t be shocked or offended, especially because you are the one introducing new sexual ideas into the relationship and want your feelings to be considered. Be open to your partner’s desires the way you would want them to be open to yours, even if you weren’t expecting them.
- Listen. Once you have communicated your sexual desires, listen to what your partner has to say. If they seem totally turned off, don’t force the subject – that will only make things awkward and uncomfortable. If your partner seems curious but hesitant, try suggesting a compromise to start off with. You wanted to communicate, and that means listening to your partner even if you don’t like what they have to say.