How To Communicate With Your Spouse
Learn how to communicate with your spouse, when there seems to be silence in the home. It’s not a good feeling when you have lost your connection with your spouse. How do you go from talking about any and everything to nothing at all? A communication barrier has been put up between you and your spouse. You may not even remember what caused it to go up. What’s worse is, you can’t begin to figure out how to tear it back down. Once communication is loss with your spouse it’s hard to get it back. Lucky for you there is one true fire way in regaining communication with your spouse. That’s if you and your spouse are both willing to repair the problems that caused the communication gap in the first place.
- Be patient and attentive. Sometimes one spouse may talk more than the other. Usually it’s the women that highjack’s the conversations; sorry ladies, but the husband may feel left out of the conversation. When one spouse feels he can’t get a word in edge wise to talk about his day, it causes tension. Your spouse may just shut down and stop trying to talk with you.
- Talk to each other and not at each other. Don’t try to communicate over each other. It will sound like you and your spouse are speaking in a foreign language. She want know what you are talking about and you want know what she is talking about. If the problem is no one is listening because you both are too busy talking, then set a timer. It should be agreed upon ten minutes for you and ten minutes for her. No interruptions while your spouse is talks unless she asks for your feedback.
- Make private time for each other. When you have kids, after school activities errands and a nine to five job it’s almost like “Mission Impossible” trying to communicate with your spouse. All your energy may be zapped out of you at the end of the day. Even so still make time to communicate with your spouse before collapsing into bed.
- Stay connected with spouse throughout the day. If the day is over by the time you get off work and you haven’t spoken to your spouse all day; the communication will suffer. Call, text, email and leave him voice mails throughout the day. Avoid putting too much communication distance between you and your spouse.
- Agree to disagree. Never go to bed angry. Don’t allow petty little squabbles to turn into something monstrous. It’s natural and healthy to have disagreements with your spouse. When those disagreements cause anger and tension in the marriage, the lack of communication is what will result from that tension.
Don’t allow any more time to pass without trying to communicate with your spouse. Now is not the time to point fingers at who cause the riff in the marriage. Now is the time to repair the communication between you and your spouse, so you will have a stronger relationship with your spouse.