How to date a widow is a lot like dating a woman who's been through a break-up, but with a twist. This woman's former mate is deceased! Your patience, the length of time she's been widowed and how well she's dealing with the grief stages will determine the success of your relationship.
- Find the right woman. Finding the right woman is part of knowing how to date a widow. Some widows are never ready to date while others begin dating while their deceased husbands' bodies are still warm. Make an effort, early on, to figure out where your girl's emotions are. It can save you a lot of heartache in the end.
- Use patience. Being patient is necessary when dating a widow. She may not be ready to form new ties or jump into a love relationship. Your patience is key if you want to be with her. Sometimes being a supportive, male friend is a good idea, at least in the beginning.
- Put her needs first. Knowing how to date a widow means putting her needs first. If she's newly widowed, she may have episodes of extreme sadness. She may also need exclusive time with friends and family. She may even see a therapist. Step back and let her delve into the dating scene–and your arms–at her own pace. Don't force her to do anything she's not ready for.
- Allow her to grieve. If you know how to date a widow, you will allow her to grieve. Even if her husband died a long time ago, dating you might bring up feelings she wasn't aware of, especially if you are the first new man in her life. When she becomes sad, offer your broad shoulders. She will appreciate the act of kindness, and it will nurture your budding relationship.