It is a dog-eat world and knowing how to deal with an ex dating a friend is unfortunately, an everyday occurrence. However, exercising a few techniques and knowing how to deal with certain situations beforehand, may make the process easier to accept. It is all about keeping your cool and staying in total control, especially in front of your ex and in front of your friend.
- Keep your distance. OK, it may not be the best situation to deal with, however if you insist on being around the ex who is dating the friend or both together at the same time, you are just setting yourself up for a bad situation. The best thing you can do is to stay away. Find someone else to hang out with on the weekends or to play that round of golf with on a Saturday morning. Do what you can do avoid a confrontation.
- Request support from friends. You do not necessarily have to approach every friend and ask for support, however asking a buddy or two to watch your back is not so difficult to do. Explain the situation about the ex dating a friend and ask that they not go back and forth telling who is doing what and how often. Feelings do get hurt and you do want to prevent this from happening. Ask your friends to refrain from making plans where you, your friend and ex are involved. This will only add fuel to the fire.
- Talk to your friend. If the situation bothers you, let him know. Obviously, it is uncomfortable for all involved; therefore airing concerns ahead of time may help make it easier on everyone to deal with. If you do not appreciate your friend dating your ex, state this. However, if you are able to get over it but need some time to think, ask your friend to avoid flaunting the relationship in your face. There is no need to rub it in.
- Handle the situation with maturity. For whatever reason, you and your ex are no longer together. Although you may be hurt, depressed or even angry, act normal. This does not necessarily imply that you should act overly kind, or smile stupidly each time you see the ex and your friend together. Just say hello and keep moving. After time, you will get use to seeing the two together and saying hello or giving a friendly wave will come naturally.
Tip: Talk to the ex girlfriend. Be mature and let her know that although you do not like the situation, you are mature enough to deal with it. Ask that she act mature as well.