How To Deal With Lack Of Sex In A Relationship

By: Rachel Andrews

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Relationships go through natural highs and lows and learning how to deal with a lack of sex in a relationship is key. Even the most compatible people, the ones who can't keep their hands off each other for the first few months, will inevitably reach a period of slow down. Illness, depression and other understandable life situations can also be a factor in a decreasing sex drive. Luckily, there are tips to help get you through to the other side.

  1. Determine the underlying issue. What is really happening to cause the lack of sex? Miscommunications can cause major problems and withholding sex can happen because of them. Maybe your partner has more pressure at work causing stress and the need for more sleep. Getting to the root of the problem can shed light on a solution.
  2. Add spontaneity. Once the initial thrill of being together is gone a little effort is needed to keep the sex fun. Sweep your lady off her feet once in a while. Do it on the kitchen floor or some place you wouldn't normally think of. Instead of waiting until the end of the night, start something up before you go out. Removing the standard patterns from a stale sex life can breathe new life into the relationship.
  3. Hang in there. If there is a real situation going on that calls for patience sometimes you have to go without. Sex isn't just about physical pleasure. It involves an emotional connection between two people. If you or your partner is in need of some personal space to deal with a tough emotional period the best thing you can do is wait it out. Show your support during this time and you will be rewarded.
Posted on: Dec. 20, 2010