How Do Men Convince Themselves That Porn Is Not Cheating?

There are many reasons men convince themselves that pornography is not cheating. Some consider pornography a part of their everyday life. It's what helps them fall asleep, release stress, and relax. However, women have entirely different opinions about porn. While men see pornography as purely sexual excitement, women see their man becoming sexually aroused at the sight of another woman. To most women, this is cheating. To most men, it isn't. 

So who is right? It is different for every couple, but there are some generalities and trends that seem to exist. Men are visual creatures. Just seeing the sight of a naked woman is exciting. They don't care who she is, what she does for a living, or even what her name is. He only cares about seeing her take her top off. Because he doesn't know who this woman is, and has never even met her, he claims that he is not cheating. 

To women, sex is about emotions. Women are turned on by intimacy, sexuality, and love. They assume that men are the same, and seeing their man watching porn can be justified as cheating. This can be a problem in a lot of relationships. The woman may feel like she is being neglected, feeling like "Why doesn't he come to me to fulfill his sexual needs, instead of this woman?" Or, "Does he even find me attractive? These 'fantasy women' are so much more beautiful than me." This feelings cause the same kind of reaction in women as if she found out that her man cheated on her. 

There isn't any easy way to remedy this problem. The best way to handle it, is to ask yourself a few questions. Would you rather watch porn than have sex with your partner? If the answer is yes, that may be a problem. Men need more than just sexual stimulation in a relationship, but men also have feelings, and need emotional connections. The women on TV and the Internet are nothing more than an means to an end.

Try watching porn with your partner. It may bring up some meaningful conversation about what defines cheating for the both of you. Once you both have expressed your feelings, there is less of a chance of hurt feelings. Ultimately, conversation and connection is what makes a relationship successful. Like anything else, porn can divide relationships. It's best to approach porn with caution. When you know what you and your partner expects and accepts, you can proceed without any guilt or hard feelings. 

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