How Does She Know You Love Her?

Whether you've just fallen in love with your sweetheart or you've been together for many years, you may be wondering, how does she know you love her?  Aretha Franklin sings “R-E-S-P-E-C-T:  find out what it means to me.”  The key to staying in the most tender recesses of your beloved's heart is respect, in word and deed.  Respect is an essential part of true love.

  1. Keep the lines of communication open.  Talk to your sweetheart about what you want and need.  Don't expect her to read your mind.  It'll only lead to resentment on both sides.  When she talks, really listen, and hear what she tells you about her wants and needs.  When you maintain open communication with your sweetheart, you let her know you love her by showing that you value her feelings.
  2. Be playful and romantic.  Life doesn't always have to be so serious.  Even during challenging times, having fun is an important part of showing love.  Your sweetie will know you love her when you can let down your hair – and your guard – and laugh.  Couples who play together stay together.
  3. Give her a safe emotional environment.  Encourage her to feel at ease with you.  For a woman, feeling emotionally safe with her man is essential to intimacy.  Watch your temper.  Speaking and acting out of anger will damage your relationship.  Let your beloved know you love her by behaving with consistent kindness and consideration.
  4. Apologize when you have done something wrong.  Don't believe the old saw about love meaning that you never have to apologize.  Love isn't a contest or a one-up game.  If you don't apologize to your sweetheart when you have made a mistake, you're sending her the message that your actions were justified and that her feelings don't matter.
  5. Respect her space.  Don't expect her to do everything you want to do.  Healthy relationships have healthy boundaries, and a couple doesn't need to be glued at the hip.  When your sweetie wants to do her own thing, it's a good opportunity for both of you to recharge as individuals.  By respecting each other's space, you'll build up trust in each other, too.
  6. Support her goals and dreams.  Even if your goals and dreams differ, never belittle her dreams or try to make her feel that they should all be the same as yours.  Ideally, you and your sweetheart can learn from each other.  Being supportive is one of the best ways to let your sweetie know you love her.
  7. Be courteous and polite.  "Please" and "thank you" mean more in daily life than you can imagine.  ‘Please’ and ‘thank you’ have a cumulative effect.  The more you use them, the less you take the little things your sweetheart does for you for granted.  If you don’t like saying "please" and "thank you", then don’t say it to strangers – save it for your sweetie.
  8. Don't try to change her.  You're two different people, and there's nothing wrong with that.  Don't feel threatened by ways in which your sweetie differs from you.  Respect her right to her own opinions and interests.  She'll know you love her when you appreciate who she is as an individual.  Instead of arguing over differences, agree to disagree.
  9. Work to grow together as the years go by.  People change, but if you and your beloved work to grow together by building mutual respect and common ground, changes don't have to pull the two of you apart.  Let her know you love her by putting your relationship first and showing you're committed to the two of you as a couple.

 

 

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