How To Find A Love

By: Robert Hosler

Break Studios Contributing Writer

To be honest, it is not easy to learn how to find a love. In actuality, it might not be something that can be learned at all. Love is something that should come naturally. Love cannot be forced; instead, it happens spontaneously without any prior warning. This does not mean you cannot learn steps that will help you find love. As long you are willing and open-minded, you can find love and the two you will live happily ever after. 

Things you'll need:

  • An open mind
  • A positive attitude
  • Resilience
  1. You need to be okay with being rejected. There is a good chance that women are going to reject you. This happens to everyone. You cannot be friends with everyone and not everyone you find attractive will feel the same about you. One basic truth about love is that is has to be reciprocal. Therefore, in order to truly find love, you have to be willing keep on trying. This is the only way you will ever find that special someone. 
  2. Always keep an open mind. Yes, it might be tempting to rush judgment and reject someone who does not fit the idealistic image you have created; however, this will only limit you pool of potential candidates. The best couples in the world are those who challenge one another. They sometimes share opposing beliefs, ideals or they come from different backgrounds. Keep an open mind and believe that you can fall in love with just about anyone. 
  3. Stop searching. Sure this may seem counterintuitive, but you will not find love by searching for it. Love just happens. When you are continually searching for love you sometimes will develop tunnel vision. This is when you are so focused on one object, or in this case one idea, that you block out everything else around you. To find love you need to be completely in tune with your surroundings.  This way you do not overlook someone you may truly fall in love with. 
  4. Take every opportunity that presents itself. Because love can happen at anytime, anywhere and with anybody, you need to make sure you take full advantage of every opportunity that comes your way. This means that when you see that perfect woman out on the street, ask her out. When your friends want to set you up on a blind date, accept it. You cannot find a love by just sitting at home or talking to the same people every day. You need to put yourself out there, so get busy. 

 Tips:

  • Do not think of internet dating sites as places where pathetic, socially awkward people meet each other. Internet dating sites are great tools for the busy adult who is just unable to find that special someone.
  • Take risks. Step outside your box and try dating someone you think might be out your league. 
  • When dating strangers, be cautious. Always tell a friend or family member where you are going and when you will be home. 
Posted on: Jul. 26, 2010