How To Get Her Back Fast

By: Kathy Gleason

Break Studios Contributing Writer

If you've been left by your love - or you left her and now realize the error of your ways, you may be wondering how to get her back fast! Although every woman is different and what works on one girl may not work on another, there are a few basic guidelines you can try to get back on her good side.

  1. Apologize. If you are in the wrong and you know it, tell her so. Whichever one of you did the leaving, if you did something to bring the break-up about, tell your girl that you're sorry. Avoid making excuses if you want to win her back. No one likes a hollow apology, don't say you're sorry unless you mean it, and tell her what exactly you're sorry about so she knows that you're sincere.
  2. Give her a little space. If you've apologized and she still wants to be your ex, stay away for a bit, anywhere from a few days to a week should do it. This should give her time to cool off if she's mad, and a chance to miss you no matter what the reasons for the break-up. During this time, there should be no calls, no emails and definitely no driving by her house. She needs a little time to reflect on how much she wants to get you back.
  3. See if you can arrange an accidental run-in. No stalking, of course, but if you know she hits the mall every Saturday, maybe you need to shop for a new pair of shoes that day, too. When you see her, smile, be friendly and then walk away! Nothing makes a woman miss a guy more than thinking he might be over her. This should lead to her calling or emailing in the next few days. If not, it's time for a grand gesture.
  4. Send a gift. Think about what she likes and pick an appropriate present. For example, if she's a music lover, a new CD by her favorite artist or tickets to a concert may be in order. If you're unsure what to buy to get her back fast, flowers are almost always appreciated.

Sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be, and if these tips to get her back fast don't work, it may be time to move on. If you aren't ready to give up, you can try waiting and giving her some time without putting pressure on her or making her feel bad for ending the relationship. Just remember, an apology can go a long way to making things right, as can time alone to put things in perspective.

Posted on: Mar. 04, 2011