How To Get Out Of A Verbally Abusive Relationship

By: Anessia Walker

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Learn about how to get out of a verbally abusive relationship to find peace in your life. You might be thinking you are not being physically abused and there are no visible scars to show the abuse. So, maybe you should tolerate being in a verbally abusive relationship. In actuality, verbal abuse is very damaging. You lose your self esteem and self worth. Verbal abuse is degrading and it brings you down to the lowest point another human being can bring you to. You may even start to feel you deserve to be in a verbally abusive relationship. This kind of mind set will make it hard for you to get out of such a negative environment. However, you are not in a totally hopeless situation. You can get out and feel happiness in your life again.

Tell yourself you deserve better. Regardless of what you have done in your life, you don’t deserve to be verbally abused. Keep telling yourself that until you truly believe it. You are a good person and you can, will and do deserve better.
Seek strength from loved ones. Draw positive energy from family and close friends to motivate you to get out of a verbally abusive relationship. This is something you might not have the strength to do on your own, so seek the comfort and willpower from family and friends.
Find ways to build up self esteem. Verbal abuse can cause you to lose your confidence. Don’t continue to allow this person to tear your down. Start making changes to make you feel better about yourself. Get a new wardrobe or hair cut, anything that will put a smile on your face. Learn to accept compliments and learn to compliment yourself. Think of all the positive attributes and good qualities you have. This will help to build up your self esteem to get you out of a verbally abusive relationship.
Demand change from your partner. You have allowed your partner to verbally abuse you. It’s now time to demand respect from your partner. Sit her down and ask her how she would like it if you start talking to her in the manner she talks to you? You are not asking but telling her she needs to respect you or the relationship can’t continue. At this point, you may feel the relationship is already over. However, getting respect from her before leaving the relationship will make you stronger.
Professional counseling might be needed. Do you feel this verbal abusive relationship has become embedded in you and you are now consumed by it? If so, you may need to seek abuse counseling to help you sort through all of your emotions. Counseling may help you to see your way out of the verbal abuse.
Separate yourself from the verbal abuse. It’s time for drastic measures. More than likely, the person who is subjecting you to the verbal abuse is not going to stop. Now is the time to pull out your inner strength that you didn’t realize was even there, but it is. Tell her you are leaving; don’t fall for crocodile tears and fake promises. Wish her well and just leave. Once you’ve done that you will feel a big weight lifted from your shoulders.