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How To Get Over A Bad Break Up

By: Jaime Golden

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Knowing how to get over a bad break up is a secret that many people would love to know. Getting over a bad break up is difficult and will no doubt be emotionally and physically trying. Getting broken up can feel like one's heart has actually been broken. It may hurt now, but there are strategies for dealing with the hurt and this article will address how to get over a bad break up.

 

  1. Learn to be alone. Relearning what is like to become single again and go to movies, restaurants and other events alone will be a vital step in moving past the break up. Also, converting to using the word “me” rather than “we” when speaking to others will help the brain get the message that it is time to move on.

  1. Get rid of any evidence of the relationship. Since it is so hard to get over a bad break up, one should get rid of the nostalgic reminders of her. Keeping pictures, letters and emails will not make her come back, nor will it make the hurt go away.

  1. Family and friends are a great support, use them. This is a great time to lean on family and friends. They may have been through a bad break up themselves and can offer support and advice. Even if they haven't experienced a breakup, they will be able to provide a shoulder to cry on and lend an ear.

  1. Eat right and get plenty of rest. It is important to remember to eat three meals a day, get plenty of sleep and try to stay healthy. If physically the body stays healthy, it will be easier to get through the emotional pain and heartache. Staying healthy is one of the best ways to get over a bad break up.

  1. Stay active. This is a great time to join a gym, find a basketball team or take up mountain biking. The more active one stays, the easier it is to distract from the break up. Also, exercise is a natural mood booster, making it a wonderful activity to do when going through an emotional crisis.

  1. Remember that time is the ultimate healer. Only time and distance will make the hurt go away. It is important to remember that the pain and anguish diminishes day by day, month by month and that there will be a day when the break up will not be a painful memory.

  1. Don't be afraid to enter the world again. Learning to date again, going out with friends as a single man and attending events and functions alone will feel strange at first. Just remember that being single is not a sentence to be alone. This is great time to reexamine what one wants out of life, both short-term and long-term.

Posted on: Nov. 11, 2010