How To Get Over A Breakup
Need to know how to get over a breakup? The feeling of loss after a break-up varies each time it happens, based on how long you had been seeing your ex, who broke up with whom and how the whole break-up went down. For example, breaking up with someone because you're going to college in cities and states on the opposite side of the country or because you work different jobs and never see each other will require a specific type of post-break-up therapy. If you catch your ex cheating or the break-up consists of a lot of yelling and bad blood, an entirely different set of post-break-up activities will be employed. However, a steady diet of all the suggestions below will help to mend any broken heart when administered in the right amounts and at the right times.
- Talk to your friends. Talking about how you are feeling is the best therapy for this shock to your emotional system. Regardless of if you broke up with her or she broke up with you, a handful of self-reflective conversations with a third party will be your go-to salve while you get over this break-up. Make sure you talk to a variety of people when you do this, namely a few who are single and a few who are still in relationships. They will give you different perspectives allowing you to pick and choose the best advice for your break-up recovery.
- Have some "You" time. "You" becomes "we" in most relationships and this self-reliance and appreciation is an integral thing to get back as you begin to recover and move on from the break-up. Sit at home with some good post-break-up guy movies like "Swingers," "Die Hard," "High Fidelity" or "The Hangover." Spend a day in your boxers watching sports and eating pizza. Play video games all night, bike around the city for no reason, do little things that you loved to do that you gave up for your past relationship.
- Hit the gym. This is an excellent idea for a number of reasons. Exercise is a great way to take your mind off heartache, allowing you to get all that anger and sadness out on the treadmill or weight bench. It will also get you back in shape, as most of us put on a "love-weight" sheen of about ten to fifteen pounds when we are comfortable in a relationship. And let's not forget that these gym visits will get you back in fighting shape for all the single ladies you will hopefully be meeting in the near future.
- Meet new girls. This does not mean immediately go out on the prowl and try to make out with the first woman who shows any hint of interest. That will only lead to a certain creepiness, possible depression and STDs or worse: a rebound girlfriend, which is like putting a band-aid on a broken arm. But a woman is partially responsible for these post break-up doldrums, so rely on a woman (or women) to help get you out of them. Reconnect with girls who you were once friends with and hang out with them again. Meet new girls and just talk to them, without trying to get them into bed. Learn to just be friends with women again and the romance will follow, in due time.