How To Get Over A Cheating Spouse
So, you find the woman of your dreams, you fall in love, you get engaged and married, and now you're trying to figure out how to get over a cheating spouse. Sucks, doesn't it. Unfortunately, learning how to get over a cheating spouse has no clearly laid out steps to perform but there are some tips to getting yourself picked up and back in the game. The below tips may help you get over a cheating spouse.
- The first step in getting over a cheating spouse is to think about what could have caused the problem. Did the marriage just fall apart because neither of you paid attention and you grew in different directions? Did it turn out that the wonderful woman you though you married was really a sham? Whatever the cause of the demise of the marriage was, think deeply about it so you can understand your next move.
- If the marriage problem was caused by both of you, and you want to give a future together another shot, you might want to find a decent marriage counselor. A marriage counselor may meet with each of you separately and then together also. Sessions may last for an hour and you may need a few months of a weekly visit to a good counselor to get the marriage back on track.
- If, however, you detect that your once cheating spouse will always be a cheating spouse, your next move may be to find a good divorce lawyer. Use joint funds to put down the deposit for the divorce counsel and give the lawyer all of the evidence of cheating you can find. This means gathering emails, photos, names, phone numbers and dates of the indiscretions. Depending on the state you live in, you may be able to get a divorce based on adultery, but your record better be sterling clean in order to take on this defense.
- If you decide to separate, working through a mediator to draw up a separation agreement may be cheaper than having a divorce lawyer do it. Regardless, you should always do step three (find a lawyer) before going to a mediator. The divorce lawyer will want to see the separation agreement before you sign it anyway but a session with a mediator is a whole lot cheaper than a lawyer.
- Once you're officially separated (and not a moment before the signatures are on the agreement), get out there and find someone who is worthy of your love this time around. Be careful about falling in love too soon after the break up of your marriage as you want your eyes to be wide open this time around. And, don't believe that all women will become cheating spouses after your marry them. You just got a bad one the first time around!