Not many people truly know how to get over an emotional affair. In fact, most who say they are fine with what happened in an emotional affair probably still hurt like hell inside. It's no joke, no one is "fine" after an emotional affair. Still, over time you can get over an emotional affair with ease; it just requires some reflection, self-restraint and humility.
- Lose all contact and lose it immediately. This is no joke. When it comes to getting over affairs, ties must be severed and relationships can't blossom with those who helped you/your partner cheat. It's either one or the other, so make the choice you truly want.
- Take time to reflect. Generally, this means you might have to take time off from the relationship. This is where the true impact of the emotional affair is assessed. After cooling off, the relationship can resume. Some couples might need months off, while others a few days. It all depends on whether or not the relationship was really worth it from the start.
- Decide if the relationship is worth it. After reflecting and meditating about the past, present and future of you and your partner, it's time to make a judgement call. Did the emotional affair ruin everything or should you let it slide in favor of a "better" relationship? Things vary, but always be cautious before trusting your heart to someone again.
- Go slow. If, in the end, it has been determined by both parties (you and your significant other) that the relationship is worth preserving, then be cautious. Slow progression and a new beginning are vital towards "making it work" this time. Remember, the emotional affair happened for a reason: Something was wrong.
Not every couple can get over an affair. To be honest, an emotional affair takes a lot out of the spark of a relationship. Yet, if the two lovers really believe that it was a "one-time deal", then perhaps an emotional affair can actually strengthen things. It's always important to be skeptical, though.